| Hi Taylor
- I know you've managed to have a family and a successful career.
My wife and I are getting to the point of talking about kids, but
we always come back to the question of how we balance work and a family.
How are you able to do both? - George
Hi George - One of my favorite topics and questions! I've got
a longer post about this very thing at GoFarWithKovar.com
that you should check out. While there are a million things to think
about and plan, the short answer is: you're ready. Here's why.
1. It will
never feel like the perfect moment. Having children is a massive
undertaking. Every second of it is a blessing, but to think it
won't completely reshape your life is naive. Because of that,
it's pretty improbable you'd ever feel like it was the perfect
moment and situation to have a child. You can only hope you'll
be able to adjust to a growing family without letting go of things
you love. It will be a big adjustment, but I promise you won't
regret a thing as you make room for the newest member(s) of your
family. If you're both excited about parenthood, stop waiting
for things to fall into place and embrace the life you want.
2. "Necessity is the mother of invention." It's not a direct
connection, but I think about this phrase a lot when it comes
to parenting. Until you have children, it's hard to fathom how
you can make it all work. Once they arrive, brightening your day
and taking up all your time, you don't remember what life was
like before. Without thinking twice, you'll make the necessary
changes and keep moving forward. It may seem counterintuitive,
but I've seen countless people find more fulfillment in their
careers after having a baby. You gain perspective about what's
really important, and that helps focus you within your family
and profession. Having kids teaches you more about yourself than
you could ever imagine.
3. You deserve both. The fact that you're asking these questions
and wondering if it's the right time is an indicator, to me, that
you're ready. This kind of thoughtful approach will only help
you in your parenting, and we could use more moms and dads who
really want to engage in the process of raising their children.
You'll be able to make time for a good career and a loving family,
even though you'll have a little less time for sleeping.
As much as
a successful career matters, nothing should come before family.
Trust in yourself and your wife and go after the life you want.
Best of luck, George!
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